Question by Height question guru!: Why does everyone frown on coed sleepovers?
I mean, seriously! Not every teenage boy is some jacked up pervert and not every teenage girl is some slut who wants to get laid every 10 minutes!
Why do parents think that if they say yes, the 1st thing that will happen is sexual intercourse? Right, I am THIRTEEN, do I want sex, NO. I have sleep over at a girls house before, do you know what we did? We watched Star Wars Episode 3 and then we went to sleep! How amazing is that! A coed sleepover where no one had sex!
So parents, why is this all ways your first assumption?
PS: And don’t give me any of that “When your hormones kick in, you will be looking for sex” bullshit. I am in a growth spurt, meaning that my testosterone, HGH and IGF-1 levels (yes, I like endocrinology) are very HIGH.
Now, I’m not saying that I’ve never kissed her, but only ever on the cheek or on the top of the head. But I’ve never made out with her. And I would never preassure her to have sex with me.
I would never drink either. Drinking increases estrogen dramaticly, aswell as decreasing testostrone and therefore, stunting my growth.
Right, do you think matter and antimatter meeting is comparable to someone getting knocked up? A matter/antimatter explosion is a thousand times worse thank the nukes America dropped on Japan.
And another thing, why does everyone percieve boys a total boneheads? If you read ALL of this (which I hope you do) you might notice that I have a basic understanding of the endorchine system (hormones). A basic understanding is consdiered to be genius compared to people who just think hormones are in the body.
Jingle Bells: There is a serious flaw in your theory, I think about other thkngs than sex, as a matter of fact, sex is the LOWEST thing on my prioities list. I am a Bpatist Christian with very strong views based on scientific fact and common sense.
So I just HAVE to know how you just KNOW thats ALL I think about?
Best answer:
Answer by Meip Meip
Because some people get horny, plus, you never know. It depends on who’s invited. My mom lets them depending on the guys. Trust me. I agree with you.
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ahahahaha…you and girls watched Star Wars. *cough*nerds*cough
I guess boys and girls are like matter and anti-matter to some people: bound to cause catastrophe
EDIT: Yes, I do think that it is comparable. Look at our high pregnancy rate. This is due to high male sex drives. People frown on coed sleepovers because they see purely through statistics and don’t see that some people (like you) can sleep over with women without sexual intercourse and romance.
Lol I don’t know.
I’ve slept over with guys a lot of times… and none of those sleep overs included sex. During half of them I was drunk or on drugs too, so that’s no excuse either.
Maybe you and I just have more self respect than a lot of teens.
Because we were young once too. We know what can happen. We are looking out for your best interests…Plus we DON”T want to be grandparents at a young age.
Speaking as a child who was NEVER allowed to go to co-ed sleepovers (and now is older and married), I think the reason parents kept us from things like that is because they don’t want to put us in situations where we could potentially make a bad decision. Yeah, we have to live our own lives and prove we are trustworthy, but there is something to be said for just avoiding situations where you might be tempted.
For example, being at a party where everyone is drunk and having so much fun can really make a person want to drink. Being at a party where you sleep over and guys and girls are making out can make you want to do it or at least try it.
I know it’s annoying (and sometimes embarrasing), but it is good to avoid bad situations.
Parents just know what their past was like…
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Actually the hormones thing is true – but still. It’s frowned upon in our society for reasons unknown. But you’re getting at an age where sex IS an option and we just want that known that it’s not OK. It’s just not appropriate. If your parents disagree – well then good. If your parents think it’s not right, then oh well, too bad.
because coed sleepovers always end up including at least a pair of people making out in a closet.
I wish i could go over to this chick house for a sleepover we dont even have to have sex but we would probably end having sex. THE REASON PARENTS THINK THAT IS BECAUSE THEY KNOW IT HAPPENS SO MANY TIMES ITS JUST TO LIKELY TO HAPPEN AND THEY WANT TO BE ON THE SAFE SIDE. And if you dont have at least a little urge well thats good I guess BUT BELIEVE ME IT’S COMING so just be able to hold it when you do get that urge you’ll have plenty of time.
I TOTALLY agree with you.
My mom is sketchy about even letting me go to chaperoned parties because she thinks there is gonna be drugs or alcohol there. I’m like, “WTF, I’m 13? What do you expect me to do?” But I agree. I guess it’s because of what you said. They think we’re gonna do something that some of us don’t even want. Like mua, for example.
EDIT: Wow, you’re a pretty smart dude. haha
Because Parents can be held liable for contributing to the delinquency of minors. No one wants to go to jail for kids. Even if not much happened, the case could be make for corrupting the morals of a minor.
I have no idea! Like I have best guy friends who are definitely just FRIENDS and their parents freak out if I’m at one their house and it gets late and my friend asks if I can spend the night. Like ew! Who has sex with their friends?!?!!
It’s because people are stupid and think all teen boys are horn dogs and all teen girls are sluts. I know what you mean. I’ve had plenty of coed sleep overs and no one had sex with anyone at any of them. Plus I would prefer not to have sex with someone when all my other friend’s are there. I always found coed sleepovers more fun anyways cuz who wants to be around nothing but a whole bunch of giggling girls anyways.
And shoot I don’t get parents half the time. What happens if your daughter becomes a lesbian or your son is gay, does that mean they can’t be around the same sex anymore. Or what if your kids is bi? Does that mean they can’t sleep over with anyone? Hell parents need to trust their kids and if the parents are in the same house, what’s the worst that can happen?
I know EXACTLY what you mean.
I’m 15, and my best friend is a guy. and my other close friend is a guy, and the other is a girl.
I have to beg my dad to let them all spend the night.
I will be very honest, I did have a crush on my best friend, but we talked about it and decided it was best to stay only friends.
We usually all just stay up till 5 am talking and watching movies.
Then the guys fall asleep, and then my friend who is a girl, and I make breakfast for everyone…
I don’t know why parents see it that way…
the thing that angers me is that the parents think were terrible for wanting our friends to stay over…
but they’re the terrible ones thinking that were going to have sex.
you have a good thinking mind mister
Ive had cooed sleepovers
well more like parties where everyone ended up sleeping over
We all just slept all over the place
and I ended up sleeping next to some guys
while we were drunk and they were on xtc
and we still didn’t do anything
i think its stupid how ppl think guys and girls can’t be in the same room w.o wanting to jump eachothers bones
I mean we do have self control
you really think that most parents are going to believe the “we’re not going to have sex” bs? seriously you’re 13 you’ve hit puberty and all you think about is sex. and have you not heard about all these 12.13.14 yr olds getting pregnant? where do you think that happens?